A few most important things girls in Pakistan should be aware of before signing on Nikah Nama
Tablet of Content
Introduction
Marriage in Islam
Divorce in Islam
Signing on Nikah Nama
Important Things to Know Before Signing Nikkah Nama
Introduction
Marriage is a union between two individual people and their families bonded by holy matrimony.
When two individuals plan to marry, they think of nurturing a family together, committing their lives to each other.
The explanation of marriage differs from place to place, it is not only between cultures and between religions, but usually it is mainly a tradition in which personal relationships, generally sexual, are recognized or certified.
In some religions and cultures, marriage is regarded as the most compulsory before tracking any sexual activity.
When expressed mostly, marriage is regarded as a cultural universal. A marriage ceremony is known as a wedding and individuals may marry for some motives, including legal, social, financial, libidinal, emotional, spiritual and religious drives.
Marriage in Islam
Marriage in Islam is a legal agreement between two individuals (men and women). Both individuals are to consent to the marriage of their own free will.
In Islam a marriage is performed as a formal binding contract – verbal and on paper, it’s an integral religious duty that outlines the rights and responsibilities of the groom and bride.
Marriage in Islamic, there must be two Muslim witnesses on the signing of the marriage papers (Nikkah Nama).
In addition to the customary marriage, there is a different fixed-term wedding known as zawāj al-mutʻah (“pleasure marriage”) allowable only by the Twelver branch of Shia Islam for a pre-fixed period.
There is also Nikah Misyar (zawaj al-misyar, traveller’s marriage), a non-temporary marriage with the exclusion of some terms such as living together, allowable in Wahabism Islam.
Some of the sects in Islam are allowed Nikah urfi and some sects allow Nikah halala.
Divorce in Islam
Divorce in Islam can take a diversity of practices, some performed by a husband individually (Talaq) and some performed by a religious court on behalf of a petitioner wife who is successful in her legal divorce appeal (khul) for a lawful reason.
Signing on Nikah Nama
You may have signed a lot of agreements or contracts in your daily life but when we talk about that marriage there comes the signing of the Marriage papers (Nikkah Nama), which you have to sign once in a lifetime.
All girls dream of getting married and to become a bride one day. In Islam, the two individuals have to sign the Nikkah Nama which is responsible for placing a man and a woman in a holy union that would drag them into marriage and it’s the only permissible method of getting married in Islam.
The importance of Nikah Nama is not only that it binds the two individuals in a bound of marriage legally, it also provides a woman with her own beneficial rights that she can state in the papers and claim after marriage.
Usually, in Pakistan, the sole purpose is to get married and girls are too careless that they don’t pay heed to these rights that should be mentioned in the Nikkah Nama before signing the papers.
It’s a time for the girls to wake up and get out of the decorative world in which they only look gorgeous, getting their best shots and signing the papers with the peacock feathers decorated pen. Marriage is not getting the prince charming and living happily ever after, no one knows about the future happenings and it would be in your best interest instead of wavering off those rights.
These things are just for the time being the most important is the new journey of life is about to start and you have to know about your rights that must be written in the Nikkah Nama and you must be aware before signing it.
These rights have been granted to girls in Islam but the majority of the girls don’t know then and won’t claim
Every girl should study the nikah nama before marriage and install all the rights given by Islam to a female before getting married.
It’s a humble request please please don’t waver off these rights.
Important Things to Know Before Signing Nikkah Nama
To sign the Nikkah Nama comes once in a lifetime so a girl before signing it first see at the end of it you get a fairly big blank space to write down any extra conditions you want and the guy has to follow it officially.
Our guardian and moulvis do not talk about the rights given to girls during Nikkah, the girls are also not allowed to speak even upon this matter as it is regarded as a “shameful act”.
In Islam, no one should make a woman feel shameful for stating her rights and wants for a marriage at the time of signing. This is her right and her community must defend that right.
Most important is you know how they make you sign the whole papers…….do you want the right to divorce or not? You can exactly add in anything there including divorce conditions, pocket money, house work, your own work details/necessities or any other tyep of commitment.
When Nikkah of Hazrat Fatima and Hazrat Ali (R.A) was the Holy Prophet (S.A.W) added the clause and many times people don’t tell you this.
These are the rights given to you by Allah Almighty, So Don’t Let Anyone Take These Rights Away From You.
Here are these right you should mention in your Nikkah Nama before signing it;
The first is Haq-Mehar which is a gift that is given to the woman by her husband. Haq-Mehar is something that would not be spared at all and must be written in the Nikkah Nama.
The amount of Haq-Mehar is managed in two ways:
The groom can decide and the bride has to accept it
The bride can decide and the groom has to accept it.
Secondly, the husband has to pay you pocket money for your personal expenditures, other than the monthly expenses he gives to you.
After having a child you start breastfeeding to his/her, it’s another right of a woman to as a husband to pay for it, and he can’t disagree because it’s you’re right.
If you do a job, the money you get from a job it’s yours own husband has no right to take it from you. He also can’t ask you to spend it on the house or anything else.
Consent to intimacy is your right he has to take your consent granted otherwise it’s a marital rape and is recognized in the court of law.
Your husband can not get the part in your will or your property if you have any.
In Islam, the guy has to pay the wedding expenses from his own pocket. To whatever extent he is capable of spending he has to spend.
There is no concept of Dowry (Dahej) not in Islam and in Law. If the groom’s family ask the dowry you can sue/ file a report against them for demanding the gifts and other items in the name of marital gifts.
Although second marriage is permissible in Islam under some conditions. You can also add the clause that your husband would not re-marry without your permission.
So, please girls must write down your rights in the extra black space given in the Nikkha Nama. These rights are permissible in Islam and your legal right in order to prevent you from serious future harm by her husband or in-laws, based on local customs and tradition and to show off the people.
The advice to you is to not be uncertain about money-related matters in marriage, though you have the right to specify certain lawful rights in the Nikkah Nama as protective methods against future abuse (if any).
Due to the dominance of unawareness & repressive cultural practices in Pakistan, girls’ families worry about how their daughters will be treated by the husbands and in-laws after marriage.
So the girls some of the important rights must be mentioned in the wedding contract to avoid future hazards.
